Others’ opinions about you is the worst source for happiness
Stop wasting time on trying to affect them
The whole status game in our society is about getting admiration from other people. Often even from people we don’t know.
Houses, cars, vacations, clothes, and all the other stuff we buy—yes we may need it all for personal reasons, but much of it is spent to impress others.
It’s such a waste of time, because others’ opinions about you is the most unreliable source for happiness there is. It’s a game you can’t win.
You can save up for the most expensive Gucci bag and someone will just say they prefer Louis Vuitton. You can work your ass off for years to get promoted to a prestigious position and some will wonder why you’d prioritize work over starting a family.
And even when you do manage to get an audible “wow” from something you’ve done, it’s soon forgotten by everyone. Your marathon finish or big house just becomes the new standard.
Stop trying to impress others and your life will be much better.
I have spent most of my life trying to please others and achieve some sense of perfection which is exhausting and impossible. This year I am focusing on myself and not caring if others like my outfit or judge me because my son is throwing a tantrum in line at the store. Life is too short.